Be Happy

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Tonight my friend said something that didn't really sit well with me. I got mad, angry at her for not understanding, for undermining how difficult something was for me. I simultaneously couldn't figure out whether I was more angry or hurt. So now I'm sitting in my room stewing, which I know isn't good for our friendship. 

I think that sometimes, we need to just learn to let things go. I know this is something that I struggle with a lot, since I have a tendency to keep grudges for a very long time. But sometimes, especially when it comes to those we care about, we need to learn to accept that they probably didn't mean to upset us. They were probably having a bad night, or they weren't thinking, or they didn't mean it the way that we took it. After all, our friends don't want to hurt us.

So rather than taking these comments personally, we should instead learn to move on. We can acknowledge that we're hurt or upset, but we also shouldn't dwell on the moment. It's not healthy to constantly think of every little thing that's upset us. We should learn to focus on the positive rather than letting things eat away at us. I think choosing to do so is the first step to choosing to be happy. 

This is something I've been working on all semester in one of my classes, and I know I'll continue to struggle with it. Sometimes people make it sound so easy when they say we shouldn't dwell, but honestly, I don't know how not to dwell. But I'd like to think that one day, I'll get to a point where I don't have to constantly remind myself to let it go, but that it simply comes naturally. I want to choose to be happy.